Monthly Archives: March 2013

Touching the Wound

Einstein said that every object bends space and time around itself. Something that comes into its influence sees itelf as moving in a straight line, but everyone else sees it curving. In the same way, a deep wound can bend both emotions and actions into orbit around it – not just the emotions felt in the wound, but actions that often recreate and sustain the original injury.

Each successive piece pulled into the wound adds a little more mass, a little more power to distort. Pack enough of these together, wall it off (as we do in pain), and the result can be a drastic shift in emotions as somebody’s innocent action spirals and crashes into the hidden mass.

The challenge lies in the ways that emotions and actions distort around the core. I’ve seen many people try to charge into the wound, break it open with force, and remake it with their bare hands. These actions often get bent around to feed the original wound.

Instead, consider softening. Find your awareness, find the spark of love, find the tools that Love gives you as one of its warriors.

If you’re feeling that wound, I invite you to take a breath. Do what helps you remain present in your body and aware of your soul. Come into your own beautiful Presence.

Look inward, softly. See that wounded part floating gently in space. Let love gently infuse around and through that center.

Slowly and gently, you can let the healing happen. With tender attention, watch as layers and pieces flake off, slowly dissolve, and spread gently into the flow of love. Every piece carries a bit of your life’s power, and this power will be cleansed and added to the flow. Flashes of memory may appear; simply breathe and let them go into the stream.

You don’t have to do this all at once. You don’t have to do it alone. You can return to the work when you are called back, you can bring your tools of awareness and ritual, you can make this work your own.

As the healing unfolds, watch for what lies at the center – the tender innocence that has been calling, through your dreams, for so long. Let that shining heart that called to you with love call out to the world. The world will answer, and this will be worth the journey.

Surrender into Freedom

When you’re struggling, don’t quit. Surrender.

Think of the last time you reached for something you wanted, but didn’t succeed. If you gave up, there’s probably a piece of you that feels left behind. It’s like Aesop’s fable of the Fox and the Grapes: unable to reach the grapes after several attempts, the Fox dismissed them as probably unripe and sour.

Our desires are often rich, ripe, and juicy. Sourness doesn’t become them, nor does abandonment. So what can you do when the desires feel out of reach?

20130319-132215.jpg You can surrender. You can listen for the stories that keep you trying the same approach. Loosen your grip on them. They want you to keep fighting the same inner battle, so you surrender that fight. You let go, and the stories let you go, freeing you to take a different approach and another angle.

Cheri Huber writes that “Fear is a green light”, that taking a step in the direction of the fear leads us to freedom. We can be aware of the old stories and choose not to enter the fight again, but step toward the dangerous, desirous place and see that the danger is entirely illusory.

I found myself struggling with my physical limitations in yoga practice, and the stories were rising up strongly. I was ready to give up the practice. So I decided to try something new: I resolved to try each pose and notice what my body could do today. Accepting my body and its abilities has led to breakthroughs on the yoga mat and in life. (I also see the part of me that tells fearful stories and accept it.)

The stories that hold us back become habits. What’s your habit? When you reach a challenge, what do you do? Do you push through, attack the problem, back away, or give up? When you want something, do you reach toward it or hold your hands closed in fear?

Can you take just one of the old battles and surrender the next time it arises? Call a truce and try stepping into the unknown. I hear the grapes are sweet and juicy there.